If the child often sees conflicts between parents, the child will feel great anxiety and fear. The young mind will bury the shadow. In this sense, the best gift parents can give their children is a good marriage, which will directly affect the establishment of children s sense of security, as well as many aspects such as socialization and interpersonal relationships.
A harmonious relationship between family members is an important foundation for a child s mental health. For the child, the parent is his entire world and a model for his life. If the child often sees conflicts between parents, the child will feel great anxiety and fear. The young mind will bury the shadow. In this sense, the best gift parents can give their children is a good marriage, which will directly affect the establishment of children s sense of security, as well as many aspects such as socialization and interpersonal relationships.
Mother is the child s closest contact. If the mother is often afraid of this and that, and sentimental, then it will directly affect the child s work and life attitude. Anxiety does not often arise only when the mother s sense of security and worth is sufficient. The self-confidence, stability, maturity, and rational parenting attitude can not only reduce the unnecessary internal consumption of the mother, but also bring the child a safe and peaceful state and temperament.
Children In daily life, children are not released with freedom of movement, independence and normal emotions. Usually in the process of children s growth, adults rarely consider their needs and wishes. Children can only turn around the adult s baton and barometer . The place where the child wants to go and what to play are often strictly prohibited Like too dirty , too dangerous , etc. When the adult is happy, pull the child whether they want to or not, kiss and hug . When you are unhappy, you think you are abandoning your child too much and dont want to ignore it. Sometimes it threatens with words such as No more obedience, I don t want you, and sometimes Perks to perfunctory children. Over time, the child s motivation to explore new things is damaged, the child loses his self, distrusts the adult, and loses his sense of security.
Therefore, parents should respect their children, let go of their children, and refrain from overly interfering and hindering the children s autonomous attempts. Follow the child s needs. If the child wants to go it by himself, give him space and let him do it himself. The child does not actively ask for parental help. No matter what the child does, the parent will not participate as long as there is no danger. However, when the child indicates that he needs help, the parent must also respond immediately, and when the child feels that it is not necessary, stop and let him do it. Therefore, let the child establish a normal parent-child attachment relationship with the parents. When encountering unreasonable demands from children, you can consult with the children instead of forcing them. For example: Mom just prepared the food and brought it to the table, but the child has to eat dumplings. In response to this situation, discuss with your child, such as telling the child, if you want to eat next time, tell your mother in advance. Now that the rice is ready, if you want to eat dumplings, we have to go back to shopping, rolling, and making dumplings. You have to endure hunger and do these things with your mother, can you see it? If the child persists, then let the child and the parents go shopping together, and when they get home, pick the vegetables and cook the dumplings with the parents … … Let your child learn to wait.
The gentle trap of the family, especially the generational pain, protects the child too well. For every step of the child s growth, he has prepared sweepers and paving stones , depriving the child of the opportunity to face difficulties and making the child timid Small, afraid of difficulties, naturally loses its sense of security.
Therefore, children should be taught to do their own things, and adults should not be arranged instead. For example, let children learn to eat, dress, pack their own items, resolve disputes with children, and so on. Try to succeed and build self-confidence. Only by allowing children to have a successful psychological experience many times, can they cope with the test of failure..
Parents often put unrealistic goals on their children. Always compare your child with other children. When the child is inferior to others or a problem occurs, parents will be very anxious, complaining, emotional behavior will appear. Often do not consider the child s feelings and ability.
As a parent, you should be aware that it is unrealistic to let your children fight for the first, but they can fight for the only. —- I am me, I am different! Because difference is resources and advantages. It is also awesome, but you are awesome and you are awesome have fundamentally different goals. We should understand and analyze the characteristics of children, give correct evaluations and realistic goals, so that children s ability to develop in the shape of mountain.
Children can often get praise easily. Parents and kindergarten teachers are always every day, You are awesome, You are too smart!, Etc., which makes children suffer from commendation dependence and cannot listen to any negative opinions. Children who lack the experience and motivation to resist frustration are often emotional and insecure.